Carmen-Sense

A Little Note About Power and Control

The ancient roots of fatherhood may have been in power and control, but we live in different times today. We don't have to always have things our way. In fact, it is important to not always have things our way.  One way to do that is to listen to others. Listening is a radical concept. It takes putting your own wants and needs on the back burner. And when you listen, you need to really hear what your family is saying. When you do things with your family, do things that are important to them. I'm not saying ignore your own desires completely, as sometimes they are also good learning experiences for your children. I'm saying that if they want to play Frisbee instead of swimming, go with that. If they want to play soccer instead of baseball, go with that. If they want you to watch a program on television with them, you get the idea.. You can chose to do your own thing later, outside of family time.  I think things happen for a reason, so, you need to take the time to learn what the lesson is in every action, everyday.